Gender is the essence of Gays, not Sexuality

"Conclusion: There thus appears to be a cultural need for people with a special neither-male-nor-female status, which might be classified as 'gender variance'."

Claudia Langa, Ursula Kuhnleb
aDepartment for Anthropology and African Studies, Ludwig Maximilian University, and
bCenter for Child and Adolescent Health, Munich, Germany

Note from Reclaiming Natural Manhood Site:

Although, the above quoted authors have not been able to pinpoint the essence of third Gender, here they have noted a very valid point, that it is the Gender variant nature of some people (who are incidentally, neither-male-nor-female or Queer), which makes them want a distinct identity from that of 'men'.

In the West too, the Gays actually are seeking a distinct Queer identity, an identity away from men. But since the Western society deliberately confuses Gender with Sexuality (Masculinity with Heterosexuality and Femininity with desire for men), Gays confuse this need for distinct identity with a need for a 'sexual identity'. But eventually, the fact that the Gays have now grouped into a larger queer LGBT, its clear that its a group of people who are gender variant, although some misdefine as being 'sexuality variant'.

Therefore, its also clear that straight men do not acknowledge their same-sex needs, although they may express this need in disguised ways, because, they hate to be given a distinct identity from other masculine gendered males. Since, they subconsciously realise that only a distinct Gender calls for a distinct identity, and not sexual preferences. In any case, desiring men is a universal men's quality and it does'nt set apart men from each other.

However, Gays live in bliss in their ignorance, dogmatically believing that desiring men makes one different, and so calls for a distinct identity. it also suits them since this notion gives them undue social powers and space, as queers who like men. And, therefore Gays are one of the strongest Forces of Heterosexualization.